वहत मेसेज दीद यू मोस्ट वांट तो हेअर?

What message did you most need to hear?

"One word frees us from the weight and pain of life; that word is love." --Sophocles

A great question and point of view from my mentor, Dr. Randin Brons. In reading the list below, one statement did strike me differently. Funny, as I looked back on my past as I began the journey of life recovery, not feeling this particular statement had a huge impact on how I developed and life unfolded.

In exploring the enneagram, Riso and Hudson have identified 'lost messages' that we needed to hear as children but didn't. The absence of these words may be at the heart of our most basic fear. And unconsciously we may still be seeking to hear these words from others.

Review the following messages and note if any one touches you more strongly than the others:

1. "You are good."
2. "You are wanted."
3. "You are loved for yourself."
4. "You are seen for who you are."
5. "Your needs are not a problem."
6. "You are safe."
7. "You will be taken care of."
8. "You will not be betrayed."
9. "Your presence matters."

"Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are -- chaff and grain together -- certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away." -- Dinah Mulock

That word and that feeling.....love. I didn't feel like I got it, lost it for myself, and did things trying to get it. Without it for myself, I know today that I lost the ability to truly feel it for others. Today I feel it for me, and can give it unconditionally to you, and the other statements above just "are".
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